Character Qualities according to God

God gives us specific guidelines on how to live our life. This includes also a clear picture of which character qualities we have to develop (or to build in our children). In the table below you see which qualities God wants us to develop, supported by scripture.

  Quality Versus Explanation Scripture
1 Attentiveness Unconcern Showing the worth of a person by giving sincere attention to his words Heb 2:1
2 Obedience Willfulness Freedom to be creative under the protection of divinely appointed authority. 2 Cor 10:5
3 Contentment Covetousness Realizing God has provided everything I need for my present happiness. 1 Tim6:8
4 Orderliness Disorganization Preparing myself and my surroundings so that I will achieve the greatest  efficiency. 1 Cor 14:40
5 Reverence Disrespect Awareness of how God is working through the people and events in my life to produce the character of Christ in me. Prov 23:17,18
6 Forgiveness Rejection Healing others by using their offenses as a means of expressing to them Christ’s love. Eph 4:32
7 Gratefulness Unthankfulness Making known to God and others in what ways they have benefited my life. 1 Cor 4:7
8 Faith Presumption Visualizing what God intends to do in a given situation and acting in harmony with it. Heb 11:1
9 Truthfulness Deception Earning future trust by accurately reporting past facts. Eph 4:25
10 Security Anxiety Structuring my life around what is eternal and cannot be destroyed or taken away. John 6:27
11 Meekness Anger Yielding my personal rights and expectations to God Ps 62:5
12 Cautiousness Rashness Knowing how important right timing is in accomplishing right actions Prov 19:2
13 Patience Restlessness Accepting a difficult situation from God without giving Him a deadline to remove it Rom 5:3,4
14 Determination Faint-heartedness Purposing to accomplish God’s goal in God’s time regardless of the opposition. 2 Tim 4:7,8
15 Dependability Inconsistency Fulfilling what I consented to do even if it means unexpected sacrifice. Ps 15:4
16 Punctuality Tardiness Showing high esteem for other people and their time Ecc 3:1
17 Discernment Judgement Seeing through a surface problem to root causes. 1 Sam 16:7
18 Loyalty Unfaithfulness Using adversity to confirm my commitment to those whom God has called me to serve. John 15:13
19 Compassion Indifference Investing whatever is necessary to heal the hurts of others. 1 John 3:17
20 Alertness Unawareness Ability to anticipate right responses to that which is taking place around me. Mark 14:38
21 Thriftiness Extravagance Not letting myself or others spend that which is not necessary. Luke16:11.
22 Responsibility Unreliability Knowing and doing what both God and others are expecting from me. Rom 14:12
23 Virtue Impurity The moral excellence and purity of spirit that radiate from my life as I obey God’s Word. 2 Pet 1:5
24 Tolerance Prejudice Acceptance of others as unique expressions of specific character qualities in varying degrees of maturity. Phil 2:2
25 Fairness Partiality Looking at a decision from the viewpoint of each person involved. Luke 6:31
26 Joyfulness Self-pity The exultation of my inward being that results from genuine Prov 15:13
27 Wisdom Natural inclinations Seeing and responding to life situations from God’s frame of reference. Prov 9:10
28 Self-control Self-indulgence Instant obedience to the initial prompting of God’s Spirit Gal 5:24,25
29 Discretion Simple-mindedness The ability to avoid words, actions, and attitudes which are not honoring to God. Prov 22:3
30 Diligence Slothfulness Visualizing each task as a special assignment from the Lord and using all my energies to accomplish it. Col 3:23
31 Endurance Giving up The inward strength to withstand stress to accomplish God s best Gal 6:9
32 Deference Rudeness Limiting my freedom in order not to offend the tastes of those God has called me to serve Rom 14:21
33 Sincerity Hypocrisy Eagerness to do what is right with transparent motives 1 Pet 1:22
34 Generosity Stinginess Realizing that all I have belongs to God and using it for His purposes 2 Cor 9:6
35 Humility Pride Recognizing that God and others are actually responsible for the achievements in my life Jam 4:6
36 Enthusiasm Apathy Expressing with my spirit the joy of my soul 1 Thes 5:16,19
37 Initiative Unresponsiveness Recognizing and doing what needs to be done before 1 am asked to do it. Rom 12:21
38 Love Selfishness Giving to others basic needs without having as my motive personal reward. 1 Cor 13:3
39 Creativity Under-achievement Approaching a need, a task, an idea from a new perspective. Rom 12:2
40 Decisiveness Double-mindedness The ability to finalize difficult decisions based on the will and ways of God. Jam 1:5
41 Sensitivity Callousness Exercising my senses so that one can perceive the true spirit and emotions of those around me. Rom 12:15
42 Thoroughness Incompleteness Knowing what factors will diminish the effectiveness of my work or words if neglected. Prov 18:15
43 Resourcefulness Wastefulness Wise use of that which others would normally overlook or discard. Luke 16:10
44 Flexibility resistance Not setting my affections on ideas or plans that may be changed by others. Col 3:2
45 Availability Self-centeredness Making my own schedule and priorities secondary to the wishes of those I am serving. Php 2:20,21
46 Hospitality Loneliness Cheerfully sharing food, shelter, and spiritual refreshment with those God brings into my life. Heb 13:2
47 Gentleness Harshness Expressing personal care appropriate to another’s emotional need. 1 Thes 2:7
48 Boldness Fearfulness Confidence that what I have to say or do will result in lasting benefit Acts 4:29
49 Persuasiveness Contentiousness Guiding vital truths around another’s mental roadblocks. 2 Tim 2:24

I. FOUNDATION STAGE – Ages: Birth to 6 years old – FOCUS: DISCIPLINE: 1 – 12

II. TRAINING STAGE – Ages: 6 to 12 years old – FOCUS: TEACHING TRUTH: 13-26

III. SKILL STAGE – Ages: 12 to 20 years old – FOCUS: SELF-CONTROL: 27-41

IV. APPRENTICESHIP STAGE – Ages: 20 to 30 years old – FOCUS: SERVING: 42 – 49

Credits: BiblicalCounselingCenter.org